This can be somewhat awkward as the receiver and we often don't know what to do so we will give advice, share our personal experiences, try to put together a plan of action, hug them, or sympathize with them. Many of us don't really consider that all that person may really want is for you to just be there and hear them. Next time you find yourself in this situation, "Don't just do something, stand there!"
We may hear this term from time to time without really understanding what it means. Essentially, holding space for someone just means to be there, to listen without intent to reply, to not try to "fix" anything, to let someone express themselves emotionally without making an attempt to make them feel better. You, as you are, just being there is enough, and this person will appreciate your simple presence during this time.
We commonly think of empathy as being able to feel one's emotions and have a more compassionate stance to where they are coming from. To take that a bit deeper, empathy occurs only when we have shed all preconceived ideas and judgments about the other party. As Philosopher Martin Buber says, "In spite of all similarities, every living situation has, like a newborn child, a new face, that has never been before and will never come again. It demands of you a reaction that cannot be prepared beforehand. It demands nothing of what is past. It demands presence, responsibility; it demands you." Often, instead of offering empathy, we give advice, reassurance or explain our own experiences.
Advising: "I think you should…" "How come you didn't…?"
One-upping: "That's nothing; wait'll you hear what happened to me."
Educating: "This could turn into a very positive experience for you if you just…"
Consoling: "It wasn't your fault; you did the best you could."
Story-telling: "That reminds me of the time…"
Shutting down: "Cheer up. Don't feel so bad."
Sympathizing: "Oh you poor thing…"
Interrogating: "When did this begin?"
Explaining: "I would have called, but…"
Correcting: "That's not how it happened."
All of the above examples listed are ways that we are attempting to make it better, change, or fix the situation. Next time someone comes to you to express a struggle, difficulty or hardship, simply listen for his or her observations, feelings, needs and requests. It helps to then reflect back by paraphrasing that you have understood what they are saying. By staying in this state of empathy, we allow others the opportunity to fully express themselves and their emotions without attempting to fix anything.
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Going Deeper than "The Secret"
Manifesting through intention is about first overcoming what seems to be a logical paradox; as we try to visualize what we want (a new car, lover, etc.), we have to somehow "feel good" about the whole matter, as though we are not actually lacking what we want. As The Secret feature speaker Joe Vitale says, "It's really important that you feel good. Because this feeling good is what goes out as a signal into the universe and starts to attract more of itself to you. So the more you can feel good, the more you will attract the things that help you feel good and that will keep bringing you up higher and higher."
But how are we supposed to feel good about what we are lacking? Even those who have been highly successful at manifesting through intention have a devil of a time explaining how they are having positive feelings in relation to the exercise of bringing towards them something they don't have enough of or don't have any of.
In some writings on the subject, the ‘wanting' of something as an intention does not bring to us the thing itself but only the continued "wanting" of it. We are told that the proper mindset is to feel grateful for what we ‘want', as though we already have it. But the fact is that we don't have it! Otherwise we wouldn't be asking for it. How do we get around this paradox? Become "Service To Others"
See all of humanity as connected, the world's resources as unlimited, and in getting what you want inspires others to get what they want. The Science of Getting Rich, written in 1910 by Wallace D. Wattles, says it this way: "You are to become a creator, not a competitor; you are going to get what you want, but in such a way that when you get it every other man will have more than he has now."
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The Apple Experiment on Facebook
The take away...
Everything that you are saying, thinking, and doing will have an effect on not only your reality, but on your physical body and experience as well. How do you talk to yourself, what thoughts are you thinking? Are you practicing gratitude in your life or are you playing the part of the victim, speaking unkind words to yourself, assuming you'll never find success in your life, etc.? You see, these thoughts make a huge difference! And, as we can see via the experiment above, it is a lot more than just your thoughts that play a role here. We can clearly see that practices such as meditation, dancing and creative expression kept the apple healthy, while on the contrary, actions such as watching the news and being consumed by fear were contributing factors to the rotting process of the apple. So, if thoughts and actions can do this to an apple, what are they doing to you?
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A standard practice in Jin Shin Jiyutsu, involves simply holding one finger with the other hand. Each finger is an energetic equivalent to the major organ systems. The key is to hold each finger until a pulse is felt both in the finger and the hand holding it. Sometimes, this may be immeidate, and at other times it may take upwards of 20 minutes to detect a pulse. The pulse response verifies that the energy meridians are connected and energy is flowing. You can also hold the fingernail of each finger under the pad of the thumb. A pulse will be detected in that way as well. This hack is an easy and effective way to stabilize energy flows throughout the body.
Mike's youngest daughter suffered with Chronic Fatigue for 8 years, from the age of 8 until she was 16. She had no energy to do anything and would often lay on the floor in a fetal position and cry because her life was passing her by. Dozens of doctors, Naturopaths, and other health practitioners were not able to find the cause or help her recover. It was then that Mike learned about cellular memory and how to tap into it to determine the cause of the problem as well as the natural remedy. Mike did this with his daughter and was able to find the cause of her Chronic Fatigue and also how to cure it. In 2 days, all of her energy came back--after 8 years. This inspired Mike to learn more and to help as many as he could. Cellular memory is very controversial with many, but not with Mike. His study showed that every cell in your body knows everything that has ever happened to you in your life. It is also believed that every cell has enough storage capacity to store all of the books of the Encyclopedia Britannica, many times over. Being able to tap into this memory is a gift that has proven itself over and over. As a result, Mike now has clients in 15 countries around the world and tests them via the phone or by Skype. This is possible because everything in the universe works by electricity and frequencies, including your body and the phone. Frequencies also travel through the air or we would not have GPS, TV, WIFI, or those little key fobs that open your car door. Mike believes that the accuracy of this testing is somewhere around 98% and he has been doing this type of testing for the past 20 years. Mike's Website
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